I Am Forbidden

I Am Forbidden I Am Forbidden Is A Powerful Portrayal Of Family, Sisters, Faith And History Which Sweeps The Reader From Pre War Transylvania To Present Day New York, Via Paris And England Immersive, Beautiful, Moving, It Exposes In Devastating Detail What Happens When Unwavering Love, Unyielding Law And Centuries Of Tradition Collide This Is A Gem Of A Novel For Readers Who Enjoyed The Tiger S Wife, The Red Tent Or The Th Wife

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  • Kindle Edition
  • 288 pages
  • I Am Forbidden
  • Anouk Markovits
  • English
  • 06 February 2019

10 thoughts on “I Am Forbidden

  1. says:

    This is a disturbing book Once I started listening to the audiobook, excellently narrated by Rosalyn Landor, I could do nothing else but listen to and and still, until I reached the end If I am to set the star rating by how urgent it was to read the book once I started, it would get five stars But I am not giving it five stars, only four I had to listen because I was so disturbed I had to listen because in the beginning it was confusing I even had to listen to the first hour and half twice To know if you want to read this book you must have a general idea of its themes It deals with Hasidism, particularly the Satmar sect of Jews living in Transylvania It deals with women who want children, very, very much and cannot get pregnant How and why can infertility destroy a relationship It deals with to what degree do you follow rules e x a c t l y, and who has the right to bend the rules and who cannot Hasidism, should it be criticized for being strict and inflexible, or is it the people who slavishly implement the rules that are to be criticized Judaism is known for being a religion open to discussion and debate, but what about in the Satmar sect The story begins in the 1930s near the Hungarian Romanian border Clearly, another theme is the Jewish situation in this area during WW2, and specifically the guilt versus innocence of Rezso Kasztner and how the Satmar Jews viewed Zionism Kasztner was a Zionist Related to Kasztner is the theme whom do you choose to save Is it the number that counts The question expands as the novel continues Do you do it at any cost And when do you save yourself None of these are easy questions Do you understand why I could not stop listening BTW, I found Kasztner s Train The True Story of an Unknown Hero of the Holocaust confusing, so I cannot recommend it One complaint that I had initially was that only the harshness and destructive qualities of the Hasidic beliefs seemed to be depicted As I continued through the book the author also showed wonderful traditions of the Satmar Jews There are songs and rituals filled with happiness and delight The view became balanced.The sentences, if sometimes ambiguous and even confusing at points, were also very often beautiful Jewish expressions and French lines are thrown in The French is usually translated, but less often the Jewish expressions I mentioned above the theme related to how rules can restrict and thus make you crazy for freedom Atara opened the door to the Parisian street In the shivery Parisian dawn a swell of poppies swayed, each blossom a scarlet freedom quivering on its fragile stem end of book two Isn t that pretty There are many such lines I have not told you why the book is disturbing It is sad to watch what people do to each other It is hard to watch what life throws in our path Did I want a happier ending No, this ends on a good note that is realistic too This is not a fairy tale novel To really understand you have to read the book, see how the plot unfolds and concludes Please see the book description I did not want to repeat what is mentioned there.

  2. says:

    This novel is truly a seminal work on the topic of Jewish Fundamentalism With unparalleled detail and poignant storytelling, this saga of a Satmar family explores and debunks the myths upon which the extreme version of Judaism we know today was founded, and it does so with a resounding clang I found myself gripping the edge of my seat quite a few times, holding my breath while I waited to see how the characters in this novel would find self determination People will read this novel both because it is a beautiful story told in a magical setting, and because it completely unravels a world heretofore tightly enclosed I extend my deepest gratitude and admiration for Anouk Markovits, who so skillfully brought my world to life, and abolished the mysteries that remained of my childhood.

  3. says:

    And Onan knew that the seed should not be his and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother s wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.Well shit, I was totally not expecting that twist at the end KAPOW.I gobbled this up in one evening and I don t think it s a novel per se yeah I know that is such a useless categorization when you have books like the Odyssey and David Markson it was like a very long tale by a storyteller, or a collection of them It had a real fairytale atmosphere, even though it was about horribly modern events.it s a real hybrid These aren t even criticisms Obviously the book knocked me on my ass and parts of it are beautiful and nearly all the characters are amazing It reminded me a little bit of Briar Rose by Jane Yolen except the focus was all on the women.I do think there was one big structural problem with the book up to A s leaving the family it s pretty much a day by day chronologically intact novel with minute psychological observations, and after that, BOOM, major time skips, and the chapters are much shorter the wedding, then five years then ten years then R s birth then ten years then R getting married then J s birth and so on I can see why I mean, if the entire story was written in the style of that first half, it would fill about four volumes WWII and the Holocaust are pretty much giant lacunae which fits the general theme because those would completely drown out the other story I think this narration X begat Y begat Z is also deliberately Biblical, and totally in keeping with the idea of survival at any cost, the survival of generations, of Jews how do you survive as a Jew How does Judaism survive At what point do you stop being Jewish because of the terrible things you have to do to live Is it even possible to make a bargain with God it s easy to imagine the Rebbe or Josef thinking Just this once, and I ll confess what I did later.later.later. and later never comes because confessing what you did would destroy the result, the reason why you did it.Anyway, it s beautifully written and mesmerizing and gripping and even if the structure s wonky and there s some first novel itis there, I d buy anything else this author wrote unseen in a heartbeat HEAR THAT

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    PART 1 is my initial Goodreads entry in response to the book PART 2 is the review I wrote for the Washtenaw Jewish News.1 The writing is elegant, concise, sometimes brilliantly stark The Yiddishkeit flows naturally unlike several books I ve read of late which drowns under research French, Yiddish, English, Hungarian language and culture all figure in the moving and provocative story Markovitz follows a Szatmar family as they move from Transylvania to Paris to New York, gaining and losing members along the way The Szatmar rebbe s rejection of Zionism figures centrally in the story, as it emerges that this towering figure of the Szatmar community survived the holocaust by making a deal with the Zionist leaders he excoriates A Szatmar family at the story s center suffers horribly In the end, the family s survivors thrive, though a key member of the family the author s double leaves the fold In the book, this character, who disappears for much of the book, reappears as a filmmaker in NY, when beckoned by her sister As girls, they were inseparable As adults, they were estranged Among the central, inspired themes of the novel is the story of Tamar, who sinned to stay pure a paradox Judah, her father in law proclaims her righteous than himself The author s inspired choice of this biblical tale is arresting 2 Washtenaw Jewish News I Am Forbidden is a stunning novel Written with eloquence and economy, it follows several generations of a Satmar Hassidic family, from Transylvania to Paris, France to Brooklyn, NY The tale is told with a rare mix of tenderness, resentment, nostalgia, and perspective, and it offers a rare glimpse into the world of Satmar Hassidim The story begins through the eyes of a child, a little boy who witnesses the murder of his family He is whisked to safety by the family s servant, who removes his yarmulke and payess sidelocks and raises him to be Christian Time passes quickly He almost forgets his heritage until he witnesses a Jewish family shot in cold blood, and rescues their little girl Anouk Markovits grew up in the world of Satmar Hassidim Her writing brings to mind a poignant axiom to make a story universal, make it very specific In her story, the foreign words that permeate the writing add color, texture, soul, and, strangely enough, universality Markovits fluency in French, Yiddish, English and Hungarian helps her to flesh out these characters, as they journey through the chaos of 20th century Europe Ultimately, two branches of the family survive one in Paris, the other in Williamsburg, Brooklyn The blend of languages is arresting, especially when the language of desire becomes a memorable mix of Yiddish, English, and French.At the story s core are two sisters, Mila and Atara Their father is a man whose own travails we have followed He is strict but loving The sisters are inseparable, until the two unwittingly violate the Sabbath one sunny day Atara bears the brunt of their father s wrath She then turns inward, trusting only her intellect for guidance The books she reads clandestinely are taboo Yearning for higher learning, she leaves her family, at which point she disappears from the novel, too The reader, like her family, is left to wonder what became of her The story turns to Mila grateful, compliant, devoted to tradition It is a curious plot twist We wonder what became of Atara Like Jacob, we must settle for the sister Surprisingly, this switch enriches the plot Mila, the good daughter finds herself in an arranged marriage that proves as romantic as any fairy tale Her bridegroom had once rescued her from certain death But life interferes Lest I spoil the book, I will not divulge their tribulations Suffice it to say that eventually she turns to the story of Tamar for consolation The biblical Tamar, desperate for justice, turns to harlotry In a sense, Tamar sins to stay pure, a paradox Ultimately, Tamar is declared a righteous woman Markovits reference to this biblical tale is inspired.For a tale spurred by indignation and longing, this story is remarkable for its compassion and for its autobiographical overtones Markovits grew up in France, and, like Atara, left her Hassidic roots She fled at 19, after being sent to New York to marry a man she never met Eventually, Markovits earned a Bachelor of Science degree from Columbia, a Masters in Architecture from Harvard, and a Ph.D in Romance Language from Cornell It is tempting to speculate that Markovits has taken her own story and split herself in two, hence the sisters By exploring the path not taken, Markovits examines the life she might have led Mila s life At the same time, she gives a nod to the free spirit who establishes a career and keeps her own counsel In fiction, Markovits can reunite these women the two parts of herself and restore, however fleetingly, a sense of family But she cannot tell her Satmar forebears that they revere a man she deems a coward The original Satmar rebbe, Joel Teitelbaum, was rescued from the Nazis by Zionists, but Teitelbaum excoriated Zionism, and taught his followers to do the same This historic truth is at the heart of the novel Atara cannot tolerate the community s erasure of their leader s betrayal In her eyes, his behavior is unpardonable Atara could never have lived Mira s life This book is an act of courage and literary prowess It is Markovits second novel The first was written in French She wrote this one in English.

  5. says:

    Women s friendshipsMarkovits writes of a Romanian Jewish community during World War II They are from the Satmar sect and have very strict beliefs and traditions There are two sets of parents, one trying to flee to safety and another attacked in their home, are murdered by fascists Left behind are two children, one from each family, each is rescued The boy is adopted by the family maid She s a Christian and tries to keep him safe by teaching him to pass by adopting Christianity and pretending to be her own child Though she s misguided she loves him very much The girl is adopted and raised as a devout Jew by her father s Talmud study partner and bought up with his ever growing family in France.I found the immersion in this unique culture fascinating but also heartbreaking both because of the World War II atrocities but also because of how unbending and unforgiving the Satmar tradition seems to be I also found this culture extremely loving and caring This contradiction is at the heart of the story I was reminded of Lisa See s Snow Flower and the Secret Fan for two reasons See s book is centered on the very insular Chinese culture of the 19th century which also had very strict traditions and expectations for men and women and their respective roles The second similarity between the stories was the central theme of women s friendships that were formed early and sustained through life s hardships I feel like I m walking a tightrope when I say this but neither the Satmar nor the 19th century Chinese traditions were female hating even though they were dominated by male privilege but they did have unflinching expectations.The orphan, Mila, and her adopted sister, Atara, were of one mind as children but in adulthood their paths forked Each still held the other dear in her heart This is the best part of Markovits s book The women s relationship holds it together and is emotionally affecting The story is told from various viewpoints and from many time periods but it remains clear Markovits is an affecting, skilled writer I didn t like the ending, it felt forced I loved learning about a culture so different from any I m familiar with The contrast between the rigidity of the Satmar culture and the sweetness of the women s love for one another touched me deeply.3.5 5

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    I am mystified by meandering rivers I ve never seen one in person, but I ve seen photos and these have grabbed my attention Part of what makes these rivers so beautiful are their wide arcs back and forth If you were on any point of one of these rivers, you d see things differently You might, at first, think the river that flowed parallel to yours was a different river that would eventually merge with your own.Much in the same way, I Am Forbidden meanders through scenery that is beautiful heading for a destination that seems clear one moment, then changes Zoom out and you ll find a story that looks similar to this river A story that goes this way, then that It s than 2 3 of the way through the novel before the story the real story at the heart of this novel begins to come into focus.Some will see this as poor planning Others may see it as the writer s style, or maybe they ll propose an underlying theme in the drifting story I m not sure why Markovits covered such a broad range in a novel that could have been much focused, but it s not something your average writer would undertake To be clear, I Am Forbidden has a focal point in a small cast of characters, but the places they go, the events they experience, so much of it doesn t seem necessary to the story itself So, in my opinion, it may be a little too easy for a reader to scratch their head for than 200 pages and think Where is this story going And for some readers that sort of thinking may mean putting the book aside for an indefinite period of time.Once the story becomes clear, however, it does stay focused It s a good story and the insight it gives the reader into a Hasidic Jewish family makes it well worth it It is a heartbreaking story, but I think had time been spent with these last hundred pages it would ve been much affective the farther from the story I move, the less memorable it becomes.

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    This book took me by surprise as my hopes for it were entirely to low Perhaps it s because I ve read many books about the Hasidic Sect of Judaism but this book steps very far apart from those I ve read before This author can write and it s seems that based on her own personal history, she writes what she knows.Although there was a slightly elusive beginning to this book and I felt like I was lost, it took no time to grab me and suck me in to this fanatical world of the Hasidic sect called the Satmar From the fields of Transylvania to the streets of both Paris and Williamsburg, NY, this story unfolds between two sisters and a boy from their past who watched his family be murdered by the Nazi s This book presents us with ethical questions within religion, the love of family, the full circle of life and the choices we make and ultimately how they affect others Beautifully written is many short chapters and short sections some of which read like lines of poetry I highly recommend this book no matter your religion because the central themes are paramount to everyone while you learn about the Satmar sect as well.

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    I started this book on Friday morning and I had to make myself put it down to go to bed Friday night I then ignored my wife Saturday morning to finish I raced through this book because I loved the two main ish female characters their world might have been alien to me but I felt like I knew them, and I had to know where they ended up.This is essentially a family saga, beginning around World War II and ending in about 2007 Starting in Romania in the late 1920s, the story roughly follows two Jewish children, Josef and Mila, who are part of a conservative Hasidic sect Orphaned by violent antisemitism and World War II, Josef and Mila are taken in by Zalman Stern and his family Josef is eventually sent to New York City to study with the community s beloved rabbi while Mila moves with the Sterns to Paris Mila becomes close to Zalman s daughter Atara.Faced with the secular world so directly, the Sterns also struggle with the changing s and values in the Jewish community Zionism, reform movements, lingering antisemitism and eventually both Mila and Atara are sent to a conservative seminary to study before their arranged marriages It is there that Atara and Mila discover they want different lives Atara wants to go to university while Mila wants only to make a good marriage.This might seem like a very simple set up but I m not conveying the real heft and beautiful mood of the story Mila s marriage is as typical and atypical as one might imagine, and the results of her choices are staggering I teared up than once but had to keep reading I was absolutely in love with Mila and Atara, and I wished this novel was double the length so I could have spent time with them My sole complaint, I suppose, is that Atara s side wasn t fleshed out as much as I would have liked, but that would have derailed this book s arc This is a novel about community, belonging, faith and family, about love and desperation and everything in between It s a meaty story that reads airy, and despite the fact that I know nothing about this religious community, I understood and empathized with the characters They were so real, and so human, and I they captured me from the first page I miss them already.

  9. says:

    As eastern Europe is fractured during World War II, the Satmar Rebbe of Transylvania makes a miraculous escape to America and begins building a new community in the Williambsurg neighborhood of Brooklyn, New York meanwhile, those of his Transylvanian followers who survive the war are dispersed throughout Europe Zalman Stern, his wife Hannah, and their growing family end up in Paris, where they are eventually joined by two young orphans Josef was the only survivor of the brutal murder of his family, rescued and raised as her son by their Christian maid several years later, Josef rescues Mila after her parents are killed chasing after a train the very train on which the Satmar Rebbe is leaving When both children end up in the care of the Sterns, Mila remains with them to be raised as a sister to their eldest daughter, Atara, while Josef is dispatched to Williamsburg to study with the Rebbe himself Josef and Mila will be reunited a few years later when their marriage is arranged The Sterns daughter Atara will find herself on a different path her curiosity about the secular world surrounding her family in Paris raises questions she is emphatically discouraged from pursuing but she can t ignore them While Mila and Josef become deeply entrenched in the Satmar way of life, Atara will become estranged from itand ultimately from her family.The title of I Am Forbidden can be interpreted several ways within the context of the novel Women in the Satmar sect are forbidden from furthering their educations or working they have no role outside the family Their most important job is producing children, and one of their greatest responsibilities related to that job is the preservation of family purity the rules that govern sexual relations between husbands and wives Sex is for procreation only, and a wife must carefully track her cycles There are several days each month when her husband is forbidden to touch her at the end of that time, she partakes in a ritual bath and returns home to give her husband a sign that he is now permitted to be with her This permitted time should coincide with her most fertile days, and if all goes well, she won t have unclean days again for months however, pregnancy will make her forbidden again A wife who does not produce children has failed at her job, and after ten years, her husband may divorce her.It can be hard for a modern woman to understand how any woman in this day and age could accept living like thiswhich is why it s key to understand that living like this is a deliberate rejection of anything modern, and can only be perpetuated within a community that chooses to close itself off from the world Exposure to unsanctioned ideas from the outside can raise questions questioning can undermine an individual s belief, and individual questioners may ultimately break down a community of believers Questioning is why Atara Stern had to leave her family behind.Markovits has Atara leave the story behind along with her family, as the remainder of the novel focuses on Mila Her story is probably interesing from the outside because her life is so unfamiliar, but at the same time, the narrowness of Mila s life makes her story challenging to tell While Markovits rises to that challenge for the most part, when she tries to take Mila out of her life s confines, the novel takes a turn that I thought was unfortunately soap operatic Although I continued to be pulled along by the story, my appreciation for it diminshed a bit over the last third of the book.Anouk Markovits writing is lovely, and she has attempted some ambitious storytelling in I Am Forbidden The novel spans decades and explores a way of life that seems to exist alongside our own time rather than of it It touches on matters historical, political, and religious while focusing on one family s story I don t think all of it worked, but I appreciate it when an author reaches the way this one does and while I didn t find the novel entirely satisfying, I did find it consistently engaging, interesting, and emotionally resonant.

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    What do you do when religious law and life collide This is a disquieting story about two young girls who have very different reactions to their religious upbringing Beautiful, tender, and SO HEARTBREAKING As I mentioned after reading, Unorthodox The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots, understanding the beginnings of the Hasidic movement makes these stories characters much tragic I have both read and heard tell that some believe this to be autobiographical So Either way, Anouk Markovits, does an excellent job portraying the lives of the one who left and the one who stayed And, neither women had it easy LAST, Anouk Marovits, lived in a Satmar community until she was nineteen After leaving she went on to get her BS at Columbia, her MA at Harvard, and her PHD at Cornell Her first novel, Pur coton roman, is written in French This book she wrote in English And this after living in an incredibly isolated world Obviously, Anouk Markovits is BAD ASS.

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